HUMAN DISCERNMENT
by Yessica Jennings
by Yessica Jennings
(akaā¦ congratulations, youāve officially become too weird for your old lifeā¦ and too new for your new one š )
Letās talk aboutā¦
the awkward middle.
Nobody prepares you for it.
Movies donāt.
School definitely doesnāt.
Instagram certainly doesnāt.
Because social media loves showing:
š Before.
or
š After.
Nobody postsā¦
āDay 47 of having absolutely no idea who I am anymore.ā
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And yetā¦
thatās exactly where growth happens.
š Youāve Left the Shoreā¦
But You Havenāt Built the House Yet.
Imagine leaving one homeā¦
before your new one is finished.
You donāt belong in the old house anymore.
But youāre also not unpacked in the new one.
So where are you?
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Exactly.
The hallway.
The bridge.
The threshold.
The in-between.
Itās uncomfortable.
Because humans love certainty.
Our brains would rather have a bad answerā¦
than no answer at all.
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š The Old Version of You Keeps Calling
You know whatās funny?
Sometimesā¦
the people who miss the old youā¦
arenāt other people.
Itās you.
Or at leastā¦
the familiar version of you.
The one who always said yes.
The one who over-explained.
The one who apologizedā¦
for existing.
The one who carried everyone elseās emotional luggageā¦
without checking if it even had your name on it.
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She feels familiar.
And familiarity can masquerade as safety.
Even when it wasnāt.
š§ Your Brain Hates Unfinished Stories
Your brain loves labels.
āI know who I am.ā
āI know how this works.ā
āI know where I belong.ā
Now?
You donāt fit your old story anymore.
But your new story hasnāt finished introducing itself.
So your brain starts doing what brains do bestā¦
Making everything dramatic.
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āWhat if Iāve made a terrible mistake?ā
āWhat if I should go back?ā
āWhat if I was happier before?ā
Careful.
Missing somethingā¦
doesnāt always mean it was healthy.
Sometimesā¦
youāre just grieving familiarity.
Thereās a difference.
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š± The Butterfly Problem
Imagine a butterflyā¦
halfway out of the cocoon.
Would we tell it,
āYou looked happier as a caterpillar.ā
Of course not.
That would be ridiculous.
(Alsoā¦
the butterfly would probably file a formal complaint.)
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Growth always looks strangeā¦
in the middle.
Not because itās wrong.
Because itās unfinished.
š You Havenāt Lost Yourselfā¦
Youāre Meeting Yourself.
This is the part that changed everything for me.
I kept thinkingā¦
āI donāt recognize myself anymore.ā
Then one day I realizedā¦
Maybe that wasnāt bad news.
Maybeā¦
for the first timeā¦
I wasnāt recognizing the survival version anymore.
Maybe I was finally meetingā¦
the person who had been waiting underneath all the noise.
That thought made me cry.
Then laugh.
Because apparentlyā¦
the person Iād been searching forā¦
had been trapped underneath seventy-three coping mechanismsā¦
a color-coded calendarā¦
and enough overthinking to power a small city.
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š§ The Threshold Has Only One Rule
Donāt decorate the hallway.
Read that again.
The hallwayā¦
isnāt your destination.
Itās a place you walk through.
Not a place you move into.
Donāt convince yourself youāre lostā¦
just because youāre between chapters.
Donāt rebuild the life you outgrewā¦
simply because it feels familiar.
And donāt rush your new lifeā¦
just because uncertainty makes you uncomfortable.
Some thingsā¦
need time to become home.
šæ Closing Reflection
If today feels confusingā¦
Good.
Not because confusion is fun.
But because confusion often meansā¦
your old map no longer works.
And thatās exactly what happensā¦
when youāre entering new territory.
So instead of asking,
āWho was I?ā
Try asking,
āWho am I becoming?ā
Because one question keeps you looking backwardā¦
The otherā¦
invites you to keep walking.
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One response to “SECTION TWO: THE SPACE BETWEEN WORLDS – guide 6”
I think Iāve spent a lot of time feeling like Iām somewhere in between. Iāve changed, Iāve grown, and Iāve built a life that looks very different from where I startedā¦ but sometimes I still donāt feel like I completely know who I am in this new version of my life.
And I think Iām finally okay with that.
I donāt have to have everything figured out. I donāt have to go back to who I was just because it feels familiar. And I donāt have to rush to become whoever Iām supposed to be.
Maybe Iām just in the middle of becoming someone I havenāt met yet.
And honestly, I think thatās okay.
And hey, how are you reading my thoughts? š¤£
This part is SO me:
Making everything dramatic.
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āWhat if Iāve made a terrible mistake?ā
āWhat if I should go back?ā
āWhat if I was happier before?ā
As always, a very helpful read š¤